We went to see genetics yesterday.  The dr didn't see anything that jumped out to him that indicates any specific syndrome or set of genes but because all three kids have similar issues and I have a few of the same things, he is thinking that there is most likely something going on genetically.  He ordered a microarray to take a "quick look" at our DNA and see if it turns up any deletions or repetitions that might point us in the right direction for further testing.  We should get a call in 2-3 weeks to set up the next appointment to get results and decide the next step